Oh Meri flimy Maa !!

I don't know where to start and end but when I talk about my mom it just fills me up with joy and happiness. Today when I write this blog she is not with us but in a happy place in peace dancing and signing to the tunes which she would love to .

I am induanted with so many messages of love, respect for her. Asking me not to feel sad and be strong ,but along with those feeling , i am also feeling the exact opposite.  I am filled with joy and happiness for she lived her life ..mostly for us. She had so many kids to take care of....Baba, didi, Me, yash, jay, deepa, kyra..and even after that she enjoyed watching movies, series, eat Macdonald, dominos or any chat items. Oh I remember watching Santa Barbara, Bold and beautiful with her . She was crazy enuf to play cricket with me in the house and if I broke anything used to shield me from any scolding.  Ahh...that does not mean she was not strict, tough taskmaster based on years of experience as a teacher and made sure us kids drinks 2 glasses of milk everyday.. Yes making us drink milk was her biggest objective in life ..ha ha..

Oh her filmyness used to shine with Deepa and Kyra and the way she used to say Kaise Ho.. and the only time she drank tea in her entire life was when Deepa requested her. Some of her dialogues would have been in prime time serials with all the masala cooked by her.

My school and engineering friends whenever used to come at home...and yes there were plenty of them..she used to tell them that I was most soft, kind, quite kind of boy and they should help me grow.. infact I was exactly like what she said irrespective of all the boys say...she has fed us all so much...I will not miss her modak or puranpoli for i will cook them with Kyra

She loved travelling and with Dad she has covered most of India, Europe and USA. Best memory of travel was to enjoy the hot tub I  lake Tahoe with all of us. First and last time she went in water which was more than her toe. Only thing she missed is the snow in new jersey.. Kyra and me will plan to make a snowman for you this winter 

Her 50 years of marriage and 70 years of life was not picture perfect but I believe she lived it to the fullest . I might have hurt her a lot with stuff sometimes which I did not meant to stay but she forgave me and I am trying to learn that from her. To be a better human being.

The season One of her life is overu but that is just beginning of Season Two with all us taking her memories alongside.

Love you lots Aai forever 💗 💓

 

My tryst with destiny !

It's been a whirlwind last 24 days in India and been bit overwhelming and maybe reality has still not sunk in yet.

My planned PTO for India to check up on my mother health and celebrate dad 75 birthday took a complete U turn the day i reached Kolhapur. My mom an patient of Parkinson for last 8 months started having hallucinations which became uncontrollable and then had to admit her to hospital .Upon investigation an infarct, small blood clot was found which might have been the root cause of detoriation in health.

With 4 days in ICU and total 11 days in hospital she is now back home. Her mobility has completely reduced and now under heavy medication.  She is on path to  slow recovery and may regain 20-50 percent of her mobility with time.We have setup 24x7 care for her so that my Dad is not burdened with everything. 

During this period I interacted with 10-12 doctors locally and internationally with support of friends and relatives. Also took second opinions to find a solution for her health. As one of her doctors said Parkinson’s is treatable and not curable.  So we need to provide best care for her with right medications.

In the end today when I leave back for US,  I am taking comfort in fact that she was 24x7 care at home with support from my Dad, sister and nephew. We were able to celebrate Dad's 75th birthday together and spend quality time as family.

The guilt of leaving her and asking dad/sister to manage her care will always be there and there are some choices we have taken and we will have lo live with that fact.

When I moved to Mumbai/USA , my mom/dad fondly known as Kaki/Kaka maintained my friendship with my friends more than I could do. So if you are ever in kolhapur please visit them to relive the memories we had together.

I am thankful to my friends and family who supported me last few days. I had not informed everyone but I know I can count on your support whenever I call you. Thank you and love you all.