Something to think about people !!

Couple of days back I received a forward from a friend of mine. Generally I just delete or glance through any of the forwards. But this one caught my eye and when I read it then I was thinking about it for a long time and then I decided to put my thoughts into this blog and discuss with all my friends. Please go through it and then my views on the same are mentioned below.


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The woman in your life...very well expressed...
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Tomorrow you may get a working woman, but you should marry with thesen facts as well.Here is a girl, who is as much educated as you are; Who is earning almost as much as you do;
One, who has dreams and aspirations just as you have because she is as human as you are;
One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your Sister haven't, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements
One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as much as you do for 20-25 years of her life;
One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family name
One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen
One, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to complain; to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, even if she doesn't want to; and is learning just like you are as to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won't like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you;
One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities;
Yes, she can drink and dance just as well as you can, but won't, simply because you won't like it, even though you say otherwise
One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like yours, are to be met;
One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some and trust her;
One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in your entire house - your unstinted support, your sensitivities and most importantly - your understanding, or love, if you may call it.
But not many guys understand this…
One of the best told stories through mails, every word in this is felt and expressed directly from heart….
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Everything mentioned in the forward above is true partially or completely for all of us. I have seen friends , family act in this manner and then the gal just follows it . I have seen my mother also going through some of these phases. Why do we men expect so much from women and in return what do we do to make the gal comfortable in the whole process. I am not married , but may be I will also act in a similar manner. Who knows? But why marriage should be compromise from one end only. Is it guys don’t even realize that they are doing this or taking things for granted.

I want to ask all my married friends to atleast put their thoughts forward and comment on this blog by which they have prevented such a situation to occur and if not how they will be much more careful in future.

Also to all the ladies I ask a question , we all discuss about the women being more strong and are better then men in many areas, then why do after marriage you have to succumb to all these things. When speak about Women of future , is this the future they see for themselves. You gals also have to put your foot forward and discuss things with your husbands or to be’s before marriage.

I guess the main point here is how the couple develops their relationship and how they are open to each other and adjust to each others preferences. Now it should not be that one sacrifices more then the other. We have to take care that similar situations should not arise in our lives . I just want to wake up you all early so that you all enjoy happy married lives.

And all for the gals..reminds me of a quote by Mel Gibson:
"I love women. They're the best thing ever created. If they want to be like men and come down to our level, that's fine. "